Hi, I’m Jack Lamb

I’m a psychotherapist and couples therapist based in London. I work with individuals and couples who are struggling with anxiety, low mood, self-esteem, and relationship difficulties, or who feel stuck in patterns that don’t seem to shift, even when they “understand” them intellectually.

I’m particularly good at helping people build self-esteem and make sense of how their relationships, past and present, shape how they feel about themselves. Many of the people I work with are thoughtful, self-aware, and capable, but still find themselves overwhelmed, self-critical, or repeating dynamics that leave them frustrated or disconnected.

I work relationally and psychodynamically, which means I’m engaged and responsive rather than distant or formulaic. I bring warmth, humour, and honesty into the therapeutic relationship, while also paying close attention to emotional depth and unconscious patterns. I aim to offer a space that feels steady, thoughtful, and human.

I have particular experience working with LGBTQIA+ clients, and my academic work has focused on chemsex and its psychological impact. I understand how substance use, sex, intimacy, shame, and connection can become tightly interwoven, and I work with these themes carefully and without judgement.

I’m a qualified psychotherapist, registered with the BACP, and I work with regular supervision.

My Approach: Psychodynamic Therapy

Psychodynamic therapy is concerned with understanding why difficulties develop and why they persist, not just how to manage them in the moment. In my work, this means paying attention to emotional patterns, relationship dynamics, and unconscious processes that may be influencing how you experience yourself and others.

I’m particularly interested in how people internalise criticism, shame, or unrealistic expectations, often without realising it. Many clients come to therapy knowing what they “should” do, but still feeling unable to do it. Psychodynamic work helps bridge that gap by bringing hidden or unexamined processes into awareness.

My style is collaborative and relational. I don’t see therapy as something done to you, but something we work on together. As we begin to understand these patterns, many people find they feel more grounded, more confident, and more able to make choices that feel genuinely theirs.

Couples Therapy

I work with couples who are feeling disconnected, stuck in recurring conflicts, or struggling to communicate in ways that feel safe or productive. Some couples come in crisis; others come because something doesn’t feel right and they want to understand what’s happening before things deteriorate further.

In couples therapy, I focus on the emotional and relational dynamics between partners, how each person experiences the relationship, what gets triggered between you, and how past experiences shape the present. I’m particularly good at helping couples slow things down, understand each other more clearly, and move out of blame and defensiveness.

I work with monogamous couples as well as couples exploring open or non-monogamous relationships. Opening a relationship can bring up intense feelings around trust, jealousy, insecurity, and identity, and I help couples navigate these complexities with care and honesty.